ABOUT the COACHING process
Navigate Life with Confidence and Clarity
True confidence isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s something you build and strengthen. Especially in moments of pressure, uncertainty, and high stakes.
My coaching process is designed to help you develop inner confidence that endures, so you can act with clarity, presence and intention even when stress, self-judgement, or unhelpful patterns show up.
This process brings together three core elements: CLEAR Goals, the Two-Minds Approach, and the Four-Step Change Process. Together they form the Conscious Mind Empowerment Method.
How My Coaching Process Works
Step 1: SET CLEAR GOALS
Goals that come from the Conscious Mind - not the Rooted Mind
Most people don’t struggle because they lack goals. They struggle because their goals are often shaped by pressure, fear, avoidance, or self-judgement—in other words, from the Rooted Mind.
CLEAR Goals are designed to ensure your goals come from your Conscious Mind—your wisdom, kindness, values, logic, and courage.
C — Conscious-Mind Led
Goals are grounded in your best self.
Ask: “Am I setting this goal from wisdom and courage, or from fear, avoidance, or pressure?”
L — Linked to Values
Every goal is directly connected to what matters most.
Ask: “Does this move me closer to the person I want to be, or the life I want to lead?”
E — Expressed in Positive Action
Goals are stated as actions to move toward—not things to stop or avoid.
Instead of: “Stop procrastinating”
Try: “Work on my project for 20 minutes today.”
A — Actionable in Spite of Emotion
Goals account for the reality that unwanted feelings may show up—and you can still act.
For example: “Speak up in the meeting even if I feel nervous.”
R — Realistic & Time-Bound
Goals are achievable within your real circumstances, with a clear timeframe.
Ask: “Can I realistically commit to this now, and by when?”
✨ CLEAR Goals turn goals into conscious commitments. Actions that pass the Mirror Test and keep you moving towards the life you want to live.
Step 2: Understand What Gets in the Way
Using the Two-Minds Approach
This is where we make sense of what happens internally when you try to act and something pulls you off course.
Your Rooted Mind is fast, emotional, and protective. It generates thoughts, urges, and feelings shaped by your upbringing, culture, evolution, trauma and genetics. Its role is to keep you safe, not necessarily to help you grow.
Your Conscious Mind is the home of your wisdom, values, kindness, logic and courage. It’s the part of you that can reflect, choose, and act with intention.
In coaching, we identify how your Rooted Mind shows up around your CLEAR Goals - through self-doubt, avoidance, perfectionism, over-thinking, people-pleasing, procrastination, or other unhelpful patterns. The goal isn’t to “get rid” of these experiences—it’s to recognise them early and respond differently.
That’s where inner confidence begins: not in feeling fearless, but in having choice.
Step 3: Build Inner Confidence
The Four-Step Change Process
Inner confidence becomes reliable when you have a repeatable way to move from automatic reaction to intentional action.
The Four-Step Change Process is how we do this in real time—especially in moments that matter.
It gives you a simple, practical way to work with your mind when your Rooted Mind is loud:
Focus Reset – Gently bring your attention back to the present moment and out of unhelpful loops.
Self-Compassion – Respond to difficulty with kindness rather than self-attack.
Reframing – Reconnect with what matters: your values, reasons, and motivation.
Mindful Valued Living – Take the next small, intentional step towards your CLEAR Goals, even when discomfort is present.
This is where inner confidence is built—not by waiting to feel ready, but by learning how to act from your Conscious Mind while fear, doubt, or discomfort are still there.
Confidence stops being something you hope to feel and becomes something you do.
Step 4: Act, Review, Strengthen
Each session ends with clear, practical actions that connect directly to your CLEAR Goals.
We then review what happened in real life:
What worked?
What got triggered?
What did you learn?
What needs adjusting?
This feedback loop is how inner confidence gets built: not as a feeling, but as a lived pattern. Evidence that you can act with clarity, courage, and values even when it’s hard.
Who This Coaching Is For
This process supports you if you want to:
Act with confidence in high-stakes moments
Communicate clearly under pressure
Reduce unhelpful patterns and increase intentional action
Build a values-led life that passes your Mirror Test
Make changes that are sustainable, not situational
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you’re ready to set CLEAR Goals and build the inner confidence to act when it matters, I’d be pleased to explore whether this coaching is right for you.
Book a free consultation to get started.
To find out more about my coaching process please listen to my podcast, On being good enough…